Posts tagged perception
You've Changed. Now Let the World Know.

An internal revolution has happened, yet the world around you has not changed one bit and you need to re-emerge and find your new place in it. You now need to be seen again and in order to do that, you need to be willing to show yourselves.

How do you do that when you’re not sure what you’re showing because you don’t know who you’ve become yet?

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Struggling with Gender Identity, Sexuality, and Duality

Growing up as a tomboy is difficult. Coming out and coming to terms with my sexuality in my teens was more difficult. Fighting the urge to conform to societal standards and finding confidence to be myself was beyond difficult. In the battle to choose between male and female, I was losing myself. It took time, a number of unfortunate situations, and a hair cut to help me figure out exactly who I was meant to be in this world.

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I Fell Off the Vulnerability Wagon

I hid behind perfectionism in order to not be seen. My particular brand of perfectionism was made up of self-righteous overachievement combined with a healthy dose of internal shame and contempt. Flawless and selfless on the outside, and indignant and sad on the inside. I found a way out through the practice of vulnerability…and then I fell off the vulnerability wagon.  

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The Two Moments That Changed Everything

I experienced two really different and difficult moments that completely changed the way that I saw things…and changed the trajectory of my life. My path would require me to listen and cry and scream and speak and write and draw and sit and fight - fight for who I was beneath the layers of expectations and fear.

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Something Needed to End, So That I Could Begin Again

I stayed in an abusive relationship for too long, and slowly became a shadow of the woman I wanted to be. When I finally began to focus on building myself back up, people were unhappy with the new me. The truth is, it was never a new me, it was the me who was buried so I could make other people feel more comfortable.

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