Posts tagged fear
How Loss Taught Me How to Rise

I was not prepared to experience this kind of pain. For me, rising in grief has become a regular behavior, one I constantly learn from.

When I feel the doom set in, I rise in the acceptance of the things I cannot control. On good days, I rise in the memory of what I cannot have. Some days I rise to love myself enough to feel the pain of this loss. I rise in grief. I rise in love. I rise in discomfort. I rise in gratitude. Over and over again, I rise.

Trigger Warning. This post discusses pregnancy loss.

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How to Embrace Your New Self After a Major Change

After a period of feeling lost and disorientated, of dismantling all the layers that made up our old identity, we’ve taken the time to go within and explore who we want to be in our next chapter. Finally, we feel the energy rising to make moves and become that person. Except…we don’t know how do to that. Based on research with high performers in transition, learn the three step process that will help you navigate your next steps after a major change: explore, define, embody. 

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You've Changed. Now Let the World Know.

An internal revolution has happened, yet the world around you has not changed one bit and you need to re-emerge and find your new place in it. You now need to be seen again and in order to do that, you need to be willing to show yourselves.

How do you do that when you’re not sure what you’re showing because you don’t know who you’ve become yet?

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I Fell Off the Vulnerability Wagon

I hid behind perfectionism in order to not be seen. My particular brand of perfectionism was made up of self-righteous overachievement combined with a healthy dose of internal shame and contempt. Flawless and selfless on the outside, and indignant and sad on the inside. I found a way out through the practice of vulnerability…and then I fell off the vulnerability wagon.  

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The Two Moments That Changed Everything

I experienced two really different and difficult moments that completely changed the way that I saw things…and changed the trajectory of my life. My path would require me to listen and cry and scream and speak and write and draw and sit and fight - fight for who I was beneath the layers of expectations and fear.

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The Courage to Create Your Life

And then I heard it. Far away, a rumble that was getting louder, and louder… You’ll hear it too if you listen closely enough. It’s a deep inner knowing, it’s a sensation of peace and quiet determination. Nothing can stop it. When you hear it, you know that something has to change but you have no idea how to go about it. So what do you do after you experience that rumble for change?

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Something Needed to End, So That I Could Begin Again

I stayed in an abusive relationship for too long, and slowly became a shadow of the woman I wanted to be. When I finally began to focus on building myself back up, people were unhappy with the new me. The truth is, it was never a new me, it was the me who was buried so I could make other people feel more comfortable.

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When Feeling Seen Doesn't Translate to Being Liked

In the middle of my talk in front of 300 high school girls, I noticed a man in the audience staring at me with disdain. Despite the fact that the audience was engaged - laughing, nodding, ferociously taking notes - I couldn’t stop being distracted by this man. Was this the price of being seen? We are all struggling to feel seen, but what if people don’t like what they see?

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5 Tips for Finding the Right Coach For You

Experts agree that the right coach can accelerate your personal and professional success. But how can you be sure that you are getting the best coaching experience? Learn the 5 tips for choosing the right coach and making the most out of your coaching experience.

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